Making friends as an adult is hard. Moving to a new city and then making friends as an adult is even harder. Moving to a new city, running your own business completely from your home and then making friends as an adult is really really hard. So many of our relationships are built on shared experiences—there are friends you went to high school with, those you went to college with, and co-workers turned friends—but how do you find your people in an entirely new place when there aren’t many other people around to connect with?
This past six months in Minneapolis has been so much fun. We’ve gotten to explore a brand new city, eaten at so many new restaurants, enjoyed beautiful summer and fall weather, and so much more. But it’s also been really lonely at times. Since I work entirely from home as a freelancer and run a business that I built by myself, I’ve found it’s been a bit tricky to meet new people. I’ve made a few local internet-turned-real-life friends which has been really neat. In fact, in having coffee with Amanda from HeartBeet Kitchen, I met the very first person to have the same job as me and that was a super fun experience.
I’ve also been very blessed to have a husband with a job that involves people. His co-workers and their families have been so generous in helping us create a little home here in the North. Sometimes, it’s easy for me to give into to feeling sorry for myself. To break down and cry because I miss my people who now live thousands of miles away and because I feel like I can count all of my Minneapolis friends on one hand. But when I step back and think about it, I realize how lucky I am to have these few new friends because in the span of just a few months, they’ve turned into family.
It’s only a few times in your life where you meet someone and it’s instantly easy. It was easy when I met my best friend back on the first week of 10th grade and when I met my sorority sister turned real life sister-in-law in college. It was easy when I met my very best teacher friend on the first day of new teacher orientation my first year in Nashville and when we moved to Seattle where we found friends who we could make curry chicken tacos with on a Sunday afternoon in our pajamas. And lucky me, I found it again here in Minneapolis.
I’ve decided, as I get older, that I would way rather have a handful of friends that I can call no matter what, who can hang out on our couch and watch the Bachelorette or make biscotti with than a million acquaintances.