As I was planning my February “month of chocolate” recipes, I knew that I wanted whatever recipe I shared this week to feel Valentine’s-y. As I started brainstorming recipes and ideas, I started thinking about just what Valentine’s Day actually feels like—is it fancy dinners at high-end steakhouses or pizza ordered in while watching movies on the couch? Is Valentine’s only meant for couples or for singles with great friends? I couldn’t develop a recipe that felt perfect for the holiday of love until I figured out what exactly this holiday is to me. As I thought through it, I think it’s all of these things and maybe more.

This year, Martin and I are celebrating 7 years of marriage and 10 years of dating (neither of which I feel old enough for, but that’s besides the point). We’ve never been ones to save fancy date nights for special holidays, and honestly, most of our favorite dinners have been shared with friends. Our first Valentine’s Day together, Martin packed a cute little picnic and we sat by a lake for an entire afternoon, talking and munching on Cape Cod chips. We’ve had grand plans of making gnocchi for Valentine’s Day, only for them to turn out mediocre at best, and most years, we end up celebrating Valentine’s Day on a day other than the 14th. This past year has been my favorite year of marriage. Work was the busiest as its ever been for Martin and I moved to Tennessee for four months to work in a restaurant, and even though being apart doesn’t sound super romantic, it was because it meant that we were pushing each other to pursue our dreams. We had the opportunity to walk alongside each other as we explored new challenges and opportunities. As I think about Valentine’s Day, I think that’s what we really celebrate. We celebrate those consistent relationships in our life, the ones that push us into new adventures, and the ones that walk beside us in the day to day. We celebrate the people that we love spending time with, at fancy dinners or in sweats on the couch. And when I think about a dessert fitting of the holiday, I think it should be something that sums all of that up—something as rich and special as those people in our lives, while still feeling comfortable and everyday.

In my opinion, flourless chocolate cake is the best dessert around. It’s thick and fudgy, and feels indulgent and decadent, but it’s fairly easy to put together and bakes up in one little layer—super approachable. I added red wine to the batter for an extra splash of luxury, roasted a bunch of strawberries and heaped mounds of goat cheese whipped cream on top. So however you celebrate (or don’t celebrate) Valentine’s Day this year, leave some room for cake.